This post's topic was actually suggested by Diana, which is embrrassing as this is an issue we have navigated for YEARS and yet somehow I never thought about it as a book-related thing, but a sister-related thing. But really it's both.
Here's the issue: Diana is a bit…possessive…about her books. And when Chestnut picks one up that she finds on the table, for instance, amid a pile of books, Diana gets a wee bit testy.
I have not had a whole lot of patience for this, I must admit. I figure, unless it's a book that you're actively reading (in which you'd better keep your dirty mitts off my book or there will be hell to pay), books are for everyone (don't I sound so nice when I write that? Like I smile a lot more than I actually do). But if it's something you're not reading, I figure that what's the big deal? I mean, go off and read it, and that's that.
Diana would beg to differ. And this past week on vacation she finally was able to make an argument to me that I could sort of understand. In her view, if you are able to declare your very best toys off limits to your sister without asking (and this is true in our house, particularly true for Chestnut of a very special unicorn), then logically you should be able to declare your most favorite books off-limits. And in any case the sibling should always ask.
Chestnut just sees all the amazing books that Diana brings back from her weekly library trips and has a hard time keeping her hands off them. Let's face it: Diana has excellent taste in books, and by god she's the older sister and still has the magical power to imbue all she touches with desirability.
I am divided. I see Diana's point, but I also feel like books are different, and not so much about ownership, and that the feeling that the house you live in has all its books open to you is worth a lot to me.
So what's the deal? Do you feel possessive of your books? Do you let others read them? What about your kids? Am I crazy?